We sought through our common prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

In Step Eleven we have an opportunity to develop a deeper relationship with our Higher Power. This Step is about our spiritual awakening. We improve conscious contact with our Higher Power through prayer and meditation. Appropriate prayer is: sincere, humble, and not for our own selfish gain. We pray for Higher Powers will and our willingness to act on it. Meditation is an ancient art of quieting the mind. You may find it difficult to sit quietly and relax or quiet your racing mind, but this becomes easier with continued practice.

Couples achieving some progress with this Step, may develop a greater sense of gratitude. You can expect to feel a sense of being connected, guided and sustained as you work together as a couple.

It is beneficial to spend daily intimate time together. You will find that intimacy with your partner depends not only on connecting emotionally, but also spiritually. As we develop more trust in our Higher Power we can become more vulnerable and find a deeper acceptance of each other. At this point you may want to revisit your spiritual quest in Step Three to review what you want to add or change.

If you have difficulty praying or lack experience with prayer and meditation, it is suggested that you use the Serenity Prayer:

God grant us the serenity

To accept the things we cannot change

Courage to change the things we can

And wisdom to know the difference

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God grant us the serenity

Serenity means that no longer recoiling from the past, no longer living in fear because of our present behavior, nor worrying about the future. To maintain serenity it is helpful to regularly seek healthier behaviors, and avoid depletion, which tends to make us vulnerable to despair and old, self-destructive patterns.

To accept the things we cannot change

Acceptance means acknowledging that there are situations over which we have no control. By changing our behavior we avoid suffering, occasioned by clinging to that which no longer exists.

Courage to change the things we can

Courage to Change– involves remembering that to give up attempts to control outcomes does not require that we give up our boundaries or best efforts. It does mean an honest appraisal of the limits, and abilities of what we can change.

And wisdom to know the difference

Wisdom in RCA often derives from painful experiences in which we tried to control situations that frightened us, only to discover that we could not. Wisdom is our ability to evaluate our past experiences, learn from them and let them go. Wisdom is critical in determining which are the things we can change, and which are those we can’t. Once you arrive at a degree of acceptance and begin to let go, you should find a new energy and enthusiasm for life.